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Members of a wedding partyYour wedding is an opportunity for you to gather your closest friends and family members together to help you celebrate the love you share with your partner. Of course, there are also going to be some difficult decisions you need to make in regards to your wedding. Selecting the members of your wedding party, for example, can be a struggle. For many, this is a decision that requires a great deal of forethought. You might not want to disappoint anyone by leaving them out of the party but you need to do what’s best for you. 

While it might seem difficult at first, there are simple ways to select the members of your party without a lot of emotional upheavals. To begin, you may find it useful to take a look at some of these simple methods other brides and grooms have explored over the years.

The Unimaginable

Close your eyes and picture your wedding. You are standing before all of your guests with your spouse-to-be and taking in all of the smiling faces. Who is standing beside you and your partner? The people surrounding you in this image in your mind are the people that you want to have with you. That is to say, the people you select for your wedding party are the people you could not fathom getting married without. These are the friends and family members who have been there for you at each and every step. 

While you may not have seen your childhood best friend in a couple of years, you might have always pictured this person standing beside you as you begin the next chapter of your life. This means you probably really want this person there. Don’t let distance impact how you determine your wedding party. If the friendship is still there, then that is all that matters for who you should have with you in the wedding party when you are finally ready to get married. 

How Close?

Brothers and sisters are usually always in a wedding party. This is because many people have close connections with their siblings and want these individuals to join in on all of the special events associated with being in a wedding party. Of course, you do not always need to allow your siblings into the party. If you are not particularly close with your sister, then there is no rule stating you absolutely must allow her into the party. Sure, feelings might be hurt, but you need to remember this is your wedding and your decision.

People are going to feel hurt by your choice no matter how you go about the process. Just because you have a sister or a brother does not mean you need to involve them in the wedding. If you have a close friend who is more suited for the position of best man than your brother, then there is nothing wrong with allowing this friend to be the best man. You may want to give your siblings other duties if they feel very offended by your decision, but don’t feel like you have to.

Consider Multiples

You also might feel like you want more people in the wedding party than is traditional. This is a common step people are taking nowadays and it might be the perfect fit for your wedding. If you have two best friends and you do not know who to select as the maid of honor, then feel free to give them both this position. 

While it might seem like a struggle to choose the members of your wedding party, there are simple ways to get through the challenge. Remember, this is your wedding and you can select the people you want to be up there with you.


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