Once the wedding has come and gone and your honeymoon is over, you may have settled back into your routine. The two of you have likely gone back to work and started dealing with the stresses of life and money again. While the first few months are often full of dates and having fun together as a couple, this starts to happen less and less often. This is especially true once children are introduced to your family. If you began having children right away, you may find you miss spending one-on-one time with your spouse. Sure, kids are great, but they can put a strain on the relationship if you aren't careful.
One way to prevent your relationship from hitting a rocky point or a lull is by making sure the two of you still date each other. This could look like a regular date where the two of you go out to dinner and a movie, or one of you could prepare a nice home-cooked meal to enjoy together once the kiddos are in bed. If you aren't currently prioritizing date night with your spouse, here are some reasons you should consider it.
Adds the Mystery
Do you remember the first time the two of you went on your first date? You may have felt jittery and a nervous excitement. These feelings likely lasted for at least the first few dates, as you got to know the person who is now your spouse and realized how much you liked him or her. Unfortunately, these feelings can fade away over time. Going on a date can help reintroduce the mystery of your relationship. You can make a point to talk about things the two of you may not know about each other. Chances are even couples who have been married for twenty or more years still have plenty of things to discuss and learn about each other. This may include things like:
- Childhood memories
- Weird talents or other interesting things about you that you haven't shared before
- Your favorite movies or books as a child
- Places you have travelled
These are just a few of the many things you could discuss. Who knows, you may find out something about your spouse you never knew before.
Add Excitement
Another great thing about a regular date night is it adds excitement. Marriage can become a little boring if you aren't spending time with each other. Having a date night can give you something to look forward to. If both of you like surprises, you can take turns planning the date so the other person doesn't know what's coming. This may sound expensive, but there are so many free or inexpensive things you can do on a date that are a lot of fun. Get creative and see what you can come up with.
Discuss Important Matters
While the main goal of a date is to have fun, you can also have important conversations over dinner or while you are driving to your next destination. If you have children or the both of you have crazy work schedules, you know how hard it can be to have conversations over things like your budget, weekend plans, and work. It can be helpful to take at least 15 minutes out of your date night to discuss these matters. Chances are the more you plan these things out and discuss them, the less stressed you will be about them later. This can also help ensure the two of you are on the same page.
Whether you have been married several months or many years, date night is important. Hire a babysitter, rent a movie, or do whatever you have to do to make date night a common occurrence for you and your spouse.
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