What You Should Know About Sending Flowers for a Funeral

Sending flowers is a common expression of sympathy for the bereaved. Often words fail when it’s time to comfort those who grieve. A floral arrangement not only extends our condolences but also adds beauty and warmth to the funeral, to the memorial service, to the internment, or for the family of the deceased. Are you wanting to show support by sending flowers? Here are some things to think about.

Consider Propriety

Although floral arrangements are pretty standard as expressions of comfort, you must make sure it’s appropriate to send one. Sometimes the family requests attendees do other things in place of sending flowers, like donating to a cause that was important to the late person. Choosing to ignore that request would be considered disrespectful or rude. The deceased may have been part of a religion or culture wherein flowers are not a part of any death rites or ceremonies. In Buddhist funerals, white flowers are usually considered fitting. When in doubt, contact the funeral home or a loved one for guidance.

Choosing an Arrangement

There are different types of floral arrangements, and the final location will influence the type you should purchase:

• Sprays: Viewable from one side only, these arrangements are supported by easels and are appropriate for display near a casket at a wake, funeral, or the gravesite.
• Baskets: Available in various sizes and configurations, baskets are appropriate either at a wake, memorial service, or the home of the deceased’s loved ones.
• Wreaths: These circular floral arrangements are symbolic of “eternity” and are often supported by an easel at a service or gravesite.
• Other shapes: These easel-mounted floral arrangements come in shapes such as hearts or crosses. A cross shape might not be appropriate if the late person was of another faith.
• Plants and dish gardens: Plants without flowers are also suitable as expressions of sympathy sent to a wake or a person’s home.

Selecting Flowers

In general, most flowers are appropriate for use in floral arrangements. Some florals have specific symbolic meanings that you should consider, whether working with a florist or creating an arrangement yourself:

• Carnation: Colors matter with this blossom. White represents innocence, while red and pink symbolize admiration and remembrance respectively.
• Chrysanthemum: In the United States, these flowers are typically associated with truth and other warm feelings of remembrance. In parts of Europe, these symbolize death and are often the only florals used for funerals.
• Forget-Me-Not: It’s all in the name. This blossom symbolizes remembrance.
• Gladiolus: This floral is often regal and statuesque, which is representative of earnestness, integrity, and strong character.
• Lily: This flower is a go-to for funerals, symbolizing peace as well as the innocence of the dearly departed’s soul.
• Orchid: The white and pink varieties often represent eternal love and are especially fitting for funereal floral arrangements. 
• Rose: Similar to carnations, different colors have different meanings. Yellow stands for friendship, while pink indicates love, gentility, and grace. A red rose is especially appropriate for respect and bravery. White roses signify innocence and reverence, but a crimson rose can be used to express deep grief.

Other flowers and plant types indicate other emotions that are suitable for a celebration of life. A funeral director or florist can help you determine which varieties best convey your love and sympathy to those who mourn. 

Being Respectful

As you consider what type of arrangement to send, remember that your gift should express sympathy or support. Avoid over-the-top displays that may have the unintended effect of diminishing other arrangements, especially those curated and sent by other loved ones. Also, consider that the family of the deceased may want to decide on arrangements for use on top of or inside the casket.

Floral arrangements are good choices to show love and support at a funeral. A beautiful arrangement can say so much more than words; however, you must think carefully about what you’re sending.