Romance is tough. While there is a dizzying energy released in the mind and heart when you first encounter someone you connect with on a romantic level, this sensation does not last forever. Unfortunately, there are many out there who do not realize this. When the magic begins to disappear from a relationship, the blame game will begin and fights will break out. Though arguing is normal for a relationship, it is equally as important to know when to step back and see how you can work together to restore the passion instead of point fingers.
The “honeymoon phase” is an early part of any relationship. It describes the time when the people in a relationship are more likely to be amused and delighted by the actions of their partners rather than irritated or angry. Though there are countless ways to keep the passion and magic alive over the years, it can be helpful to take a look at a couple simple tricks. Consider these suggestions to see what might work for you and your significant other.
Together and Not
Relationships are weird because there is no “golden rule” that works for everyone when it comes to solving a problem. You and your partner have a unique chemistry, so some issues you may need to work on resolving without outside help. Still, there are a few general rules to live by to keep yourself in better standing. For one, it is a great idea to make sure you and your partner are engaging in activities together and apart. This means knowing how to balance personal activities with couple stuff.
Balancing this scale is definitely going to take practice. There might be weeks where you see your partner more and other times when you barely cross paths due to your schedules. Figuring out a compromise can work wonders for your lives together. A great way to ensure you both always make time for each other is by setting aside one night a week as a night for just the two of you. These “date nights” might not seem like much but they can do wonders when it comes to keeping the homefires burning.
It’s Not a Race
Keeping the magic alive is also about knowing how to work at your own pace. Should you and your partner feel pressured to make certain choices, it can easily be a point of stress. Society has a way of looming over even the happiest of couples, reminding them they should be buying a home, getting a puppy, having a baby, getting that next promotion, having another baby, and so on and so forth. Pressures from family and friends can easily make a person feel like he or she has to speed things along to be up to standard.
Life is not a race, of course. Everyone goes through the motions at his or her own speed. If your mom won’t stop asking about grandchildren, you don’t want to transfer that pressure to your partner. Instead, work together to figure out what you want from your future together. Do you actually want children? Then you need to talk about it and figure out when to get the process started. Making these decisions together, instead of letting pressure from the outside dictate your actions, can help to make the spark between you last.
Always Communicate
Though you might have heard this time and time again, you absolutely must communicate with your significant other to keep passion in your relationship. The less you talk about problems or triumphs, the more likely it is you will fall prey to misunderstandings, scuffles and even some serious screaming matches.
There is no secret to making the “honeymoon phase” last forever but there is a lot to learn about going with the flow. When you keep open communication and work together, instead of against one another, you are more likely to keep the magic flowing for longer.
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