Weddings are very interesting events. While the classic idea of a modern wedding tends to paint the bride as the force behind the entire ordeal, in most cases that is not quite the truth. In many situations, weddings are planned by both of the people involved. Still, some partners tend to stay quiet and allow their significant other to make all of the decisions. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship when you’ve entered married life, it starts before you even walk down the aisle. Planning your wedding alongside your partner can make for a great way to begin.
Relationships are all about teamwork and compromise. You probably are already aware of this but married life has a habit of cranking up the dial on how much you need to work with your partner. Cohabitation brings out the best and worst in people. Once you two have tied the knot, you’re stuck in the same space for the foreseeable future. When planning your wedding together, you will start to learn new details about each other and move through disagreements in healthy and productive ways.
It Starts With the Guests
Working with your significant other on planning a wedding means talking to each other about every detail. One of the biggest elements of your wedding is going to be the guest list. Who you invite dictates everything from how much you are spending on food to what you need to keep in mind for transportation to and from the venue. By keeping the list small, you are able to save a bit of money. Unfortunately, it is very difficult to plan a small wedding when you and your partner both have large families.
A big obstacle you are going to have to overcome while planning your wedding with your partner is getting the guest list down to a reasonable size. This can cause a bit of turbulence but it does not have to lead to a fight. Try to see if you both can come up with a happy compromise that allows you to keep a sensible guest list without leaning in favor of one family over the other. Moving through this step with ease can help you to move toward other tasks with a sense of excitement.
Letting Go
Compromise comes in many forms. When your partner has his or her heart set on a very specific idea for the wedding, it can be beneficial to not fight the idea. When you say yes to something that your partner wants, it opens the door to getting something that you like. If you are resistant to every thought posed by your significant other, then you will constantly be bickering over trivial details of what is supposed to be an important day in your relationship. Pick and choose what you disagree on to see better success.
Of course, there are bound to be ideas posed by your partner that seem ridiculous to you. Instead of reacting to the idea, actually take a moment to listen to it. Sure, it could seem absurd to make your own centerpieces but hearing your partner’s plan might shed some light on why it is a great idea. Communication is key in all relationships. Keep open lines when planning your wedding and you will be able to keep the atmosphere healthy.
Remember the Point
The entire point of your wedding is to celebrate the love that you and your partner share. If you go through the planning phase of your wedding and fight at every turn, it can be a bad omen of things to come. Use the planning as a way to strengthen your bonds and improve your communication skills and you will be able to feel a sense of pride in the event you threw together.
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