The process of planning a wedding is overwhelming. It's one of the biggest days of your life, and you don't want anything to go wrong. Because of all the responsibility, choosing the right maid of honor is of the utmost importance. You want someone you can trust to be there for you, handle stressful situations and help keep the other bridesmaids organized. You likely will choose a sister, cousin, or best friend to fill the role. Because of all the stress that can be involved with this position, there are some things you can do to help make your chosen person feel appreciated. These things can be done from the beginning of the wedding-planning process.
Find a Fun Way to Ask Her
Get creative when it comes time to ask her to be your maid of honor. Asking her online or through text message is not the best way. This is something you should try to ask her face to face. Even if the two of you live far apart, taking the trip to see her can mean a lot. If this isn't possible for you, then at least ask her via video chat. You might consider sending her a gift in the mail that will arrive on the same day you ask her. This can help show how much this means to you.
Take Her Opinions Seriously
It's your wedding, and all decisions should be made by you and your future husband. However, there are times when you might want to consider your maid of honor's opinion. Even if you don't wind up going with what she suggests, at least take time to think about her ideas. If you chose her to be in your wedding, she is probably one of the most important people in your life. Take her opinions seriously. She may have a good idea that you would have never considered.
Be Considerate
Sometimes women have a hard time controlling their emotions during a stressful time such as planning a wedding. If you are someone who wants things just right or someone who has had your wedding day planned since you were a little girl, you may have trouble handling things if something goes wrong. Try to keep your emotions in check. Don't take your stress out on your maid of honor. While it's perfectly acceptable (and even encouraged) to turn to her when you need to get some advice or simply vent, you don't want to place any blame on her. There are other ways you should be considerate as well:
- Don't choose a bridesmaid dress you know she will be uncomfortable wearing.
- If she has knee or back problems, offer to let her walk barefoot or in flats.
- Remember she has a life too, so she can't always be at your beck and call.
Have a Get-Together for the Bridesmaids
If your bridesmaids don't know each other, having a get-together at your place can be a great opportunity to get them acquainted. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, just a casual get-together so they can all meet and spend some time together.
Give the Maid of Honor a Gift
It's pretty customary to provide a gift for your bridesmaids when all is said and done. These gifts are often given at the rehearsal dinner. While you should get something for all of your bridesmaids, you should get something extra for your maid of honor. Make sure your gift is a reflection of how thankful you are for all she has done and to have her in your life.
Your maid of honor will likely feel very appreciated if you do these things for her. If you want to show her how thankful you are to have her participate in your wedding, this is the way to do it.
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