Donald V. Dunham

I’m a minister, but not in the way people usually assume.

I waited nearly 29 years before accepting that title, and I chose a life of simplicity and discipline so I could focus on service, health, and helping people live together more peacefully. I don’t preach at people. I don’t recruit. I don’t judge. I listen, I build, and I help where I can.

A lot of my work centers on what I often call “bringing back the village.” By that, I mean restoring basic human things we’ve lost—spaces where people can talk without fear, share skills without strings attached, and exist without being pressured to perform or agree.

That’s the purpose behind EXIT FELLOWSHIP—a quiet, voluntary space for honest conversation and shared presence. No doctrine. No fundraising. No obligation to stay. You’re free to speak, free to listen, and free to leave at any time.

In everyday life, I focus on practical skills, health, systems improvement, and respectful cooperation. I believe communities work better when people are treated like humans, not problems to be managed.

If that resonates, you’re welcome here. If it doesn’t, that’s okay too.

Take what’s useful. Leave what isn’t. Exit is always honored.

The Cascade Mountains.

What I Hope to Achieve

What I hope to achieve is simple.

I want people to have at least one place where they can be human without being judged, fixed, recruited, or managed. A place where someone can talk if they need to, stay quiet if they don’t, and leave without guilt or explanation.

I want to help bring back the idea of the village, not as nostalgia, but as a practical way of living. A way where people look out for each other, share skills, reduce harm, and don’t leave others isolated just because life got complicated.

I hope to improve health, not just physically, but socially, by reducing stress, fear, and loneliness, and replacing them with calm, respect, and cooperation. I want to help create environments where people can live and work together peacefully without pressure or control.

I’m not trying to build a movement, grow an organization, or convince anyone of anything. I’m trying to make space. Space for listening. Space for clarity. Space for people to remember that they matter.

If that space helps someone breathe a little easier, think a little clearer, or feel less alone, then it’s working.

That’s enough for me.

Services Offered

The work I offer is centered on listening, health, and helping people live together with less friction and more care. Everything is voluntary, and nothing here is based on obligation, belief, or payment.

Listening & Conversation

One-on-one conversations for those who need to talk

Group conversations where people can share without judgment

A calm space to speak honestly or sit quietly

This is not therapy or counseling. It is human presence and attentive listening.

Community & Fellowship Space

Weekly online gatherings for reflection and conversation

An ongoing online space for connection between meetings

Clear boundaries that protect freedom, respect, and safety

Participation is optional. Silence is respected. Leaving is always acceptable.

Health & Well-Being Support (Non-Medical)

Education and discussion around basic health principles

Reducing stress, isolation, and social strain

Supporting calmer, more sustainable ways of living

No medical advice is given. No treatments are prescribed.

Practical Skills & Systems Support

Improving small systems and projects

Gardening and sustainability knowledge

Helping people think through practical, real-world problems

This work focuses on cooperation, efficiency, and long-term stability.

Guidance in Peaceful Cohabitation

Supporting respectful communication

Helping reduce conflict through boundaries and clarity

Encouraging shared responsibility and mutual respect

The goal is not control, but coexistence.

What Is Not Offered

No therapy or clinical services

No fundraising or donations

No recruitment or conversion

No pressure to stay, agree, or participate

Everything here exists to support one simple idea: bringing back the village in a way that fits modern life.

Take what’s useful. Leave what isn’t. Exit is always honored.