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Welcome Statement
Minister: Dearly beloved, we gather here today to celebrate and as they come together to unite in holy matrimony. With feelings of elation and joy, we prepare to bear witness to this sacred ceremony. Before God, Before Allah, Before the Universe, Before the Elements, we recognize the special bond shared by these two wonderful individuals. Their adoration for one another is palpable, and is truly worthy of appreciation. We are particularly blessed to have friends and family in attendance today. The Groom and Bride The couple would like to extend their thanks to all of you, for your presence makes this ceremony even more meaningful.
and enjoy a firm foundation for their relationship, one built on trust, respect, and shared principles. With a deep mutual understanding, they come before us today ready to take oaths of marriage and dedicate their lives to one another.
There truly is nothing so powerful as love. As the Bible reminds us in the Song of Solomon,
"Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house
for love, it would be utterly scorned."
Before we proceed, let us join together in a reading from the Book of Ruth:
"As Ruth said: Entreat me not to leave thee, Or to return from following after thee: For whither thou goest,
I will go, And where thou lodgest, I will lodge. Thy people shall be my people, And thy God my God. Where thou
diest, will I die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If ought but death part
thee and me."
I would now like to share the following Duas:
Oh Allah, bless this couple with faith, love and happiness in this world and the next.
O Allah, You are the Loving (Al Wadud) and the Merciful (Al Rehman). Please let love and mercy fill the hearts
of this couple when they look upon each other.
Our Creator, strengthen the spirit of the bride and groom with faith, and let them increase in their
love and commitment to You through their bond.
Oh Lord of the Universe, all power is with You. Let this couple's marriage become a beautiful example to other
couples.
Life offers few greater joys than a deep connection felt with another. But a soulmate is more than just a
special connection, author Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us:
"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a
mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own
attention so you can change your life."
Consider the wisdom of Buddha's words during his sermon at Rajagaha:
"Do not deceive, do not despise each other anywhere. Do not be angry nor bear secret resentments; for as a
mother will risk her life and watches over her child, so boundless be your love to all, so tender, kind and
mild. Cherish good will right and left, early and late, and without hindrance, without stint, be free of hate
and envy, while standing and walking and sitting down, what ever you have in mind, the rule of life that is
always best is to be loving-kind."
Before continuing, I will share an old Pagan blessing:
"Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember...
Like a star should your love be constant,
Like the earth should your love be firm.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways or words of the
Unenlightened give you unease.
For the Old Gods are with you,
Now and always!"
As and prepare to make their sacred vows, we are grateful for the love felt in this space and the timeless memories being forged today.
Family Blessing
Minister: Who gives this Bride today? Who gives this Groom today? Who gives this Spouse today?
Bride's Companion: I do. Groom's Companion: I do. Spouse's Companion: I do.
Speak Now
Minister: If there is anyone who believes that and should not be wed, speak now or forever hold your peace.
Wedding Sermon
Minister: (Addressing guests) Marriage is a sacred and historic institution that warrants great respect. As we gather to witness and formalize their union, let us acknowledge the significance of the commitment that they are about to enter into.
But the solemnization of marriage is more than a venerated tradition in human culture, it's also an occasion of great joy. In this celebration of love, we find optimism for the future. There are those unfortunate few who would characterize married life as unexciting. They use phrases like "settling down", indicative of a static, unchanging future. But this couldn't be further from the truth. Life, by its very nature, is full of excitement. Married life is no different. There are countless adventures yet to be had and memories yet to be made. And isn't the benefit obvious? You get to do all of these things with a loving partner by your side. As and prepare to formalize their union, they do so contently, knowing that from this day forward they will never walk alone.
(Addressing couple) and , as you embark upon this journey together, embrace all that life throws your way. Relish opportunities to spend time with one another, learn from one another, and embrace one another. Accept your mistakes, and find areas of compromise when you disagree. Sow seeds of trust and respect today, and reap the benefits down the line.
Remember to lean on each other. Always keep your spouse at the center of your heart, and be ever ready to provide them support. Life often presents unexpected challenges, but these obstacles will be no match for the strength of your bond. If you can believe it, the love you share today – as strong as it already is – will only continue to grow and flourish over time. This phenomenon is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Cherish it.
Consecration
Minister: With that in mind, we will now begin the formal matrimonial proceedings. Under the eyes of God, Under the eyes of Allah, Under the eyes of the Universe, Under the fold of the Elements, this sacred covenant will be finalized.
As the Bible reminds us in Ecclesiastes, with loving companionship we may overcome any obstacle:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down
together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
As is tradition, let us now read the Sheva Brachot, the Seven Benedictions:
Blessed are You, Adonai our God, King of the Universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has created everything for your glory.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Creator of Human Beings.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has fashioned human beings in your image,
according to your likeness and has fashioned from it a lasting mold. Blessed are You Adonai,
Creator of Human Beings.
Bring intense joy and exultation to the barren one (Jerusalem) through the ingathering of her children amidst
her in gladness. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who gladdens Zion through her children.
Gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatures in the garden of Eden. Blessed are You,
Adonai, Who gladdens groom and bride.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, groom and bride,
mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, brotherhood, peace, and companionship. Adonai, our God, let there
soon be heard in the cities of Judah and the streets of Jerusalem the sound of joy and the sound of gladness,
the voice of the groom and the voice of the bride, the sound of the grooms' jubilance from their canopies and
of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You Who causes the groom to rejoice with his bride.
At this time, I will recite a short poem written by Mufti Ismail Menk:
"Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start.
A school where you will never graduate.
A school without a break or a free period.
A school where no one is allowed to drop out.
A school which you will have to attend evey day of your life.
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
A school founded by the Almighty:
1.On the foundation of love,
2.The walls made of trust,
3.The door made of acceptance,
4.The windows made of understanding.
5.The furniture made of blessings.
6.The roof made of faith.
Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.
Even at times of a storm, don’t be unwise and run outside.
Remember this school is the safest place to be.
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. If you find something in your classmate
(spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate.
The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short excerpt from Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith:
"People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout
between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is is a postcard glimpse of a
skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they
didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short poem written by Thich Nhat Hanh that reflects the feelings
of this moment.
"Standing quietly by the fence,
you smile your wondrous smile,
I am speechless,
and my senses are filled
By the sounds of your beautiful song,
Beginningless and endless.
I bow deeply to you."
As we move forward with the ceremony, I offer this traditional Celtic wedding prayer:
"Now you are bound one to the other
With a tie not easy to break.
Take the time of binding
Before the final vows are made
To learn what you need to know -
To grow in wisdom and love.
That your marriage will be strong
That your love will last
In this life and beyond."
and , as you prepare to share your vows with one another, understand that the significance of this event extends beyond the two of you. In forming this union, you are also participating in a historic tradition carried out by your ancestors, and their ancestors before them. Keep this in mind as we proceed.
Vows
Minister: and , I will now invite you to declare your sacred vows to one another.
, would you like to begin?
: (Groom states their vow...) I, , take you, , to be my lawfully wedded Wife from this day forth. I promise to be by your side for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. My love and devotion are yours until the end of my days. This is my solemn vow.
, you may now make your promise.
: (Bride states their vow...) I, , take you, , to be my lawfully wedded Husband from this day forth. I promise to be by your side for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. My love and devotion are yours until the end of my days. This is my solemn vow.
Declaration of Intent
Minister: and , please join hands. Under the eyes of God, Under the eyes of Allah, Under the eyes of the Universe, Under the fold of the Elements, , do you take to be your lawfully wedded Wife? Do you promise to support her completely and love her unconditionally, so long as you both shall live?
: I do.
Minister: Under the eyes of God, Under the eyes of Allah, Under the eyes of the Universe, Under the fold of the Elements, , do you take to be your lawfully wedded Husband? Do you promise to support him completely and love him unconditionally, so long as you both shall live?
: I do.
Minister: Very well, let us proceed.
Candle Lighting
Minister: and , the words you have spoken have solidified your union, but it is with the lighting of this candle that your souls will truly become one.
Both and will then receive a pre-lit candle to begin the candle lighting process.
In your hands rests a single flame, a light symbolizing not just the warmth of your being, but all aspects of your life. All your ideas, all your thoughts; every word you've spoken, every decision you've made; all your victories, all your defeats; your moments of happiness, and of despair; all are contained within the flame you now hold.
Minister will pause for effect.
To mark your sacred union, you will now light the center candle together.
and will then use their candles to light a larger candle centered between them.
Witness how two separate flames have come together to form a single light. Just as the two flames have become one, so too have your souls been joined today in a sacred bond. As the light of this combined flame gives warmth and guidance to all around it, may your souls flourish together in unity from this day forward.
Hand Fasting
Minister: and , the words spoken today have formalized your union, but is through the fasting of hands that you truly seal your spiritual commitment to each other. I will now invite you to join hands.
and will hold hands, joining right-hand to right-hand and left-hand to left-hand in an interlocking fashion. Help the couple adjust their hand positioning here if they struggle in doing so.
With your hands locked in union, look into the eyes of the person who stands before you. Reflect on all that you have been through together; the joys, the sorrows, the victories, and the failures. The person whose hands you now grasp will be your supporter, your partner, and your companion from this day forward.
In the tradition of our ancestors, your hands will now be fastened together.
Officiant then wraps the hand-fasting cord around the couple's interlocked hands.
Just as your hands are now interlocked, so too are your souls sealed together in union. While the ribbon which now binds you must soon be removed, the symbolic binding of your spirits is permanent.
Officiant will pause for effect, and then unwrap the cord.
Sand Ceremony
Minister: and , the words you've spoken today have solidified your commitment to one another. To mark the beginning of your union, you will now combine sands to signify two separate spirits merging to become one.
and will each receive a vessel of sand of different colors.
In your hands you each hold an individual vessel of sand. Allow the grains of sand found within to represent your being. Let each grain symbolize a different moment in your life, collectively mirroring your unique life experience. Everything you have been through up to this point, and all the moments that are still ahead of you – your entire life is represented in this vessel.
When you are ready, please combine your sands together.
and will then tilt their vessels forward and pour their sand into a larger container situated between them.
Watch as these different grains of sand mix to form a new structure. Just as these separate sands have been combined into one, so too have your souls been bound together in unity. Before you now lies a new, larger vessel of sand – greater in volume than what you held before, symbolizing the strength of the bond you have entered into together.
Just as these grains of sand, now combined, can no longer be separated, so too have your individual lives become enjoined, your spirits indivisible. As you enter into this next chapter of life, side by side, remember that your partner shall forever be a part of you, and you of them.
Jumping The Broom
Minister: and , the words spoken today have made your union official, but by jumping over this broom you will truly begin your journey together as companions.
While this line is spoken, the minister will display the ceremonial broom to the audience before laying it down in front of the Groom and Bride.
Reflect for a moment on your past experiences, everything that led up to the day of your wedding. Remember all the good times you've been through, and the bad; consider all the decisions that took your life on its distinct path. Recognize that each fork in the road led you to where you are today. More forks will surely come in the future, but one thing has changed: you now have a partner by your side. Please join your hands and when you're ready, jump together over the broom to begin your new life.
and will then join hands and jump over the broom.
Glass Stomping
Minister: and , having now spoken the words formalizing your marriage, we will now commence with the traditional glass stomping to mark the formation of this beautiful union. As is customary, the message of "Mazel Tov" will be shouted as the glass is broken.
As the officiant is speaking, the best man will place the glass (usually wrapped in a white cloth) in front of the couple. The couple will then stomp the glass.
This glass before you, now broken, may never be reassembled – its condition is permanent. Just as this glass has been forever altered, so too are your lives upon taking the sacred vows of marriage. Your spirits are bound together in harmony, from this day forward. Embrace this change, for with it comes both comfort and joy.
Tree Planting
Minister: and , the solemn words spoken today have made your union official. Now, through the planting of your marital tree, you will truly solidify this special bond.
Both and will each receive a small jar containing soil. A sapling (placed in a pot beforehand) will then be brought forward.
In your hands you each hold a vessel of soil. Let this sample of earth represent your soul, your body, your being. Everything you are, and everything you will become is contained inside. With this in mind, prepare now to share this soil with your partner – a symbolic melding of your individual spirits at the base of your marital tree.
When you are both ready, slowly pour your vessels of soil into the pot before you, giving this tree a strong foundation to call home.
and will then pour their soil at the base of the tree.
As this tree grows, so will your bond. With love and care, its trunk will become tall and its branches strong – capable of withstanding any hardship. Just as a tree weathers a storm, so shall your marriage endure any challenge.
Ring Exchange
Minister: With your vows complete, it's time to exchange rings. Forming an unbroken circle, these rings symbolize the lifelong commitment you now enter into. Let them serve as a reminder of the love you share and the promises you've made before us today.
, I will ask you to go first. Please repeat after me as you place the ring on 's hand.
I, , give you this ring as a symbol of my eternal love and dedication. With this ring, I thee wed.
, now you will do the same.
I, , give you this ring as a symbol of my eternal love and dedication. With this ring, I thee wed.
Pronouncement
Minister: By the power bestowed upon me by the Universal Life Church and by the state of , I now pronounce and Husband and Wife, lawfully wedded today before God. before Allah. before the Universe. before the Elements.
Kiss
Minister: , you may now kiss the Bride! You may now kiss your spouse!
Presentation
Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to present to you, for the first time, Mr. and Mrs.
Recessional
~ Exit Music ~
Processional
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Welcome Statement
Minister: Welcome to all, and thank you for making the journey to take part in this special ceremony. It is with great joy that we prepare to celebrate the union of and before God. before Allah. before the Universe. before the Elements.
and , we gather here today to rejoice in the strong bond you share, and to honor your genuine commitment to each other's happiness. Before we begin, a heartfelt thank you to all the friends and family in attendance, especially those who travelled from afar to be with us. This celebration is made all the more meaningful by your presence.
There truly is nothing so powerful as love. As the Bible reminds us in the Song of Solomon,
"Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house
for love, it would be utterly scorned."
Before we proceed, let us join together in a reading from the Book of Ruth:
"As Ruth said: Entreat me not to leave thee, Or to return from following after thee: For whither thou goest,
I will go, And where thou lodgest, I will lodge. Thy people shall be my people, And thy God my God. Where thou
diest, will I die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If ought but death part
thee and me."
I would now like to share the following Duas:
Oh Allah, bless this couple with faith, love and happiness in this world and the next.
O Allah, You are the Loving (Al Wadud) and the Merciful (Al Rehman). Please let love and mercy fill the hearts
of this couple when they look upon each other.
Our Creator, strengthen the spirit of the bride and groom with faith, and let them increase in their
love and commitment to You through their bond.
Oh Lord of the Universe, all power is with You. Let this couple's marriage become a beautiful example to other
couples.
Life offers few greater joys than a deep connection felt with another. But a soulmate is more than just a
special connection, author Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us:
"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a
mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own
attention so you can change your life."
Consider the wisdom of Buddha's words during his sermon at Rajagaha:
"Do not deceive, do not despise each other anywhere. Do not be angry nor bear secret resentments; for as a
mother will risk her life and watches over her child, so boundless be your love to all, so tender, kind and
mild. Cherish good will right and left, early and late, and without hindrance, without stint, be free of hate
and envy, while standing and walking and sitting down, what ever you have in mind, the rule of life that is
always best is to be loving-kind."
Before continuing, I will share an old Pagan blessing:
"Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember...
Like a star should your love be constant,
Like the earth should your love be firm.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways or words of the
Unenlightened give you unease.
For the Old Gods are with you,
Now and always!"
May this ceremony serve to create indelible memories that you can cherish for the rest of your days.
Family Blessing
Minister: Who gives this Bride today? Who gives this Groom today? Who gives this Spouse today?
Bride's Companion: I do. Groom's Companion: I do. Spouse's Companion: I do.
Speak Now
Minister: If anyone has reason to believe and should not be wed, speak now or forever hold your peace.
Wedding Sermon
Minister: and , you are preparing to embark on one of life's most rewarding journeys, the joys of which you do not yet fully comprehend. As you stand here today before God, before Allah, before the Universe, before the Elements, take a moment to appreciate the love and devotion you have for each other. This feeling – unmatched by any other in the world – is sought after by many, but only some truly find it. You are lucky to share this bond; never take it for granted.
While your union will become formalized with an exchange of rings, marriage is about much more than a piece of metal on your finger. Marriage, at its very essence, is a sacred promise. It's a vow that says "no matter what comes our way, we're in this together." Life is known to throw unexpected obstacles in our path from time to time. Alone, they can feel difficult to tackle. But alone you are no longer. Take comfort in the fact that from this day forward, you will have a trusted partner by your side. Whatever challenges may come, you will navigate them together. Conversely, whatever successes you attain, you will celebrate them together. That is the beauty of true partnership.
Upon entering this commitment, your lives will become eternally connected. Through joys and sorrows, through triumphs and disappointments, your union will endure and become ever stronger thanks to the bond you share. And remember to nurture this connection. By taking these vows today, you promise to dedicate yourself not just to your partner but to your partnership itself.
Consecration
Minister: As we stand here under the eyes of God, under the eyes of Allah, under the eyes of the Universe, under the fold of the Elements, let us again acknowledge the seriousness of this commitment. Marriage is a profound undertaking, and one that demands deep respect.
As the Bible reminds us in Ecclesiastes, with loving companionship we may overcome any obstacle:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down
together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
As is tradition, let us now read the Sheva Brachot, the Seven Benedictions:
Blessed are You, Adonai our God, King of the Universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has created everything for your glory.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Creator of Human Beings.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has fashioned human beings in your image,
according to your likeness and has fashioned from it a lasting mold. Blessed are You Adonai,
Creator of Human Beings.
Bring intense joy and exultation to the barren one (Jerusalem) through the ingathering of her children amidst
her in gladness. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who gladdens Zion through her children.
Gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatures in the garden of Eden. Blessed are You,
Adonai, Who gladdens groom and bride.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, groom and bride,
mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, brotherhood, peace, and companionship. Adonai, our God, let there
soon be heard in the cities of Judah and the streets of Jerusalem the sound of joy and the sound of gladness,
the voice of the groom and the voice of the bride, the sound of the grooms' jubilance from their canopies and
of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You Who causes the groom to rejoice with his bride.
At this time, I will recite a short poem written by Mufti Ismail Menk:
"Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start.
A school where you will never graduate.
A school without a break or a free period.
A school where no one is allowed to drop out.
A school which you will have to attend evey day of your life.
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
A school founded by the Almighty:
1.On the foundation of love,
2.The walls made of trust,
3.The door made of acceptance,
4.The windows made of understanding.
5.The furniture made of blessings.
6.The roof made of faith.
Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.
Even at times of a storm, don’t be unwise and run outside.
Remember this school is the safest place to be.
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. If you find something in your classmate
(spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate.
The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short excerpt from Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith:
"People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout
between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is is a postcard glimpse of a
skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they
didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short poem written by Thich Nhat Hanh that reflects the feelings
of this moment.
"Standing quietly by the fence,
you smile your wondrous smile,
I am speechless,
and my senses are filled
By the sounds of your beautiful song,
Beginningless and endless.
I bow deeply to you."
As we move forward with the ceremony, I offer this traditional Celtic wedding prayer:
"Now you are bound one to the other
With a tie not easy to break.
Take the time of binding
Before the final vows are made
To learn what you need to know -
To grow in wisdom and love.
That your marriage will be strong
That your love will last
In this life and beyond."
With this in mind, I would like to invite the Groom and Bride to exchange vows.
With this in mind, I would like to invite the couple to exchange vows.
Vows
Minister: and , now is the time to share the vows you've written for one another.
, would you like to begin?
: (Groom states their vow...) today, I take you as my Wife and my companion. I promise to love you, to honor you, and to share my life with you. Even when physical distance separates us, you will never be far from my mind. I vow to cherish you exactly as you are, and never take what we have for granted. I offer you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forwards.
, your turn.
: (Bride states their vow...) today, I take you as my Husband and my companion. I promise to love you, to honor you, and to share my life with you. Even when physical distance separates us, you will never be far from my mind. I vow to cherish you exactly as you are, and never take what we have for granted. I offer you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forwards.
Declaration of Intent
Minister: and , please join hands. , under the eyes of God, under the eyes of Allah, under the eyes of the Universe, under the fold of the Elements, do you take to be your lawfully wedded Wife? Do you vow to offer unconditional love and support to her as long as you shall live?
: I do.
Minister: , under the eyes of God, under the eyes of Allah, under the eyes of the Universe, under the fold of the Elements, do you take to be your lawfully wedded Husband? Do you vow to offer unconditional love and support to him as long as you shall live?
: I do.
Minister: Let us proceed.
Candle Lighting
Minister: and , the words you have spoken have solidified your union, but it is with the lighting of this candle that your souls will truly become one.
Both and will then receive a pre-lit candle to begin the candle lighting process.
In your hands rests a single flame, a light symbolizing not just the warmth of your being, but all aspects of your life. All your ideas, all your thoughts; every word you've spoken, every decision you've made; all your victories, all your defeats; your moments of happiness, and of despair; all are contained within the flame you now hold.
Minister will pause for effect.
To mark your sacred union, you will now light the center candle together.
and will then use their candles to light a larger candle centered between them.
Witness how two separate flames have come together to form a single light. Just as the two flames have become one, so too have your souls been joined today in a sacred bond. As the light of this combined flame gives warmth and guidance to all around it, may your souls flourish together in unity from this day forward.
Hand Fasting
Minister: and , the words spoken today have formalized your union, but is through the fasting of hands that you truly seal your spiritual commitment to each other. I will now invite you to join hands.
and will hold hands, joining right-hand to right-hand and left-hand to left-hand in an interlocking fashion. Help the couple adjust their hand positioning here if they struggle in doing so.
With your hands locked in union, look into the eyes of the person who stands before you. Reflect on all that you have been through together; the joys, the sorrows, the victories, and the failures. The person whose hands you now grasp will be your supporter, your partner, and your companion from this day forward.
In the tradition of our ancestors, your hands will now be fastened together.
Officiant then wraps the hand-fasting cord around the couple's interlocked hands.
Just as your hands are now interlocked, so too are your souls sealed together in union. While the ribbon which now binds you must soon be removed, the symbolic binding of your spirits is permanent.
Officiant will pause for effect, and then unwrap the cord.
Sand Ceremony
Minister: and , the words you've spoken today have solidified your commitment to one another. To mark the beginning of your union, you will now combine sands to signify two separate spirits merging to become one.
and will each receive a vessel of sand of different colors.
In your hands you each hold an individual vessel of sand. Allow the grains of sand found within to represent your being. Let each grain symbolize a different moment in your life, collectively mirroring your unique life experience. Everything you have been through up to this point, and all the moments that are still ahead of you – your entire life is represented in this vessel.
When you are ready, please combine your sands together.
and will then tilt their vessels forward and pour their sand into a larger container situated between them.
Watch as these different grains of sand mix to form a new structure. Just as these separate sands have been combined into one, so too have your souls been bound together in unity. Before you now lies a new, larger vessel of sand – greater in volume than what you held before, symbolizing the strength of the bond you have entered into together.
Just as these grains of sand, now combined, can no longer be separated, so too have your individual lives become enjoined, your spirits indivisible. As you enter into this next chapter of life, side by side, remember that your partner shall forever be a part of you, and you of them.
Jumping The Broom
Minister: and , the words spoken today have made your union official, but by jumping over this broom you will truly begin your journey together as companions.
While this line is spoken, the minister will display the ceremonial broom to the audience before laying it down in front of the Groom and Bride.
Reflect for a moment on your past experiences, everything that led up to the day of your wedding. Remember all the good times you've been through, and the bad; consider all the decisions that took your life on its distinct path. Recognize that each fork in the road led you to where you are today. More forks will surely come in the future, but one thing has changed: you now have a partner by your side. Please join your hands and when you're ready, jump together over the broom to begin your new life.
and will then join hands and jump over the broom.
Glass Stomping
Minister: and , having now spoken the words formalizing your marriage, we will now commence with the traditional glass stomping to mark the formation of this beautiful union. As is customary, the message of "Mazel Tov" will be shouted as the glass is broken.
As the officiant is speaking, the best man will place the glass (usually wrapped in a white cloth) in front of the couple. The couple will then stomp the glass.
This glass before you, now broken, may never be reassembled – its condition is permanent. Just as this glass has been forever altered, so too are your lives upon taking the sacred vows of marriage. Your spirits are bound together in harmony, from this day forward. Embrace this change, for with it comes both comfort and joy.
Tree Planting
Minister: and , the solemn words spoken today have made your union official. Now, through the planting of your marital tree, you will truly solidify this special bond.
Both and will each receive a small jar containing soil. A sapling (placed in a pot beforehand) will then be brought forward.
In your hands you each hold a vessel of soil. Let this sample of earth represent your soul, your body, your being. Everything you are, and everything you will become is contained inside. With this in mind, prepare now to share this soil with your partner – a symbolic melding of your individual spirits at the base of your marital tree.
When you are both ready, slowly pour your vessels of soil into the pot before you, giving this tree a strong foundation to call home.
and will then pour their soil at the base of the tree.
As this tree grows, so will your bond. With love and care, its trunk will become tall and its branches strong – capable of withstanding any hardship. Just as a tree weathers a storm, so shall your marriage endure any challenge.
Ring Exchange
Minister: and , you will now exchange rings. Take a moment to appreciate how the shape of these rings mirrors your commitment. Just as a circle has no beginning and no end, so too will your love for each other prove infinite in scope. Allow these rings to be a physical representation of your union – a timeless reminder of the connection you share.
Please repeat after me:
I, , give you, , this ring as a symbol of my unwavering love and dedication. Everything that I am is yours, and all that you are, I shall cherish.
I, , give you, , this ring as a symbol of my unwavering love and dedication. Everything that I am is yours, and all that you are, I shall cherish.
Pronouncement
Minister: By the power vested in me by the Universal Life Church and by the state of , I happily pronounce and to be Husband and Wife!
Kiss
Minister: , you may kiss the Bride! You may kiss your spouse!
Presentation
Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, we've now arrived at the conclusion of our ceremony. I now present to you, for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. !
Recessional
~ Exit Music ~
Processional
~ Introductory Music ~
Welcome Statement
Minister: We would like to thank all the friends and loved ones gathered here today to celebrate the union of and .
This joyous occasion marks the beginning of a special chapter in their lives. Let us celebrate the happiness and bring to each other, and appreciate the special bond that they share. With a strong foundation of love, trust, and mutual respect, they will now embark upon this lifelong journey together.
Family Blessing
Minister: Who gives this Bride today? Who gives this Groom today? Who gives this Spouse today?
Bride's Companion: I do. Groom's Companion: I do. Spouse's Companion: I do.
Speak Now
Minister: If there is anyone who objects to this union, you may speak now or forever hold your peace.
Wedding Sermon
Minister: Marriage is a sacred human tradition. As we gather here before God, before Allah, before the Universe, before the Elements, let us recognize the significance of the vows that will be spoken today. Not only do they mark a lifelong commitment, but they represent a tradition which dates back thousands of years.
There truly is nothing so powerful as love. As the Bible reminds us in the Song of Solomon,
"Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house
for love, it would be utterly scorned."
Before we proceed, let us join together in a reading from the Book of Ruth:
"As Ruth said: Entreat me not to leave thee, Or to return from following after thee: For whither thou goest,
I will go, And where thou lodgest, I will lodge. Thy people shall be my people, And thy God my God. Where thou
diest, will I die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If ought but death part
thee and me."
I would now like to share the following Duas:
Oh Allah, bless this couple with faith, love and happiness in this world and the next.
O Allah, You are the Loving (Al Wadud) and the Merciful (Al Rehman). Please let love and mercy fill the hearts
of this couple when they look upon each other.
Our Creator, strengthen the spirit of the bride and groom with faith, and let them increase in their
love and commitment to You through their bond.
Oh Lord of the Universe, all power is with You. Let this couple's marriage become a beautiful example to other
couples.
Life offers few greater joys than a deep connection felt with another. But a soulmate is more than just a
special connection, author Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us:
"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a
mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own
attention so you can change your life."
Consider the wisdom of Buddha's words during his sermon at Rajagaha:
"Do not deceive, do not despise each other anywhere. Do not be angry nor bear secret resentments; for as a
mother will risk her life and watches over her child, so boundless be your love to all, so tender, kind and
mild. Cherish good will right and left, early and late, and without hindrance, without stint, be free of hate
and envy, while standing and walking and sitting down, what ever you have in mind, the rule of life that is
always best is to be loving-kind."
Before continuing, I will share an old Pagan blessing:
"Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember...
Like a star should your love be constant,
Like the earth should your love be firm.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways or words of the
Unenlightened give you unease.
For the Old Gods are with you,
Now and always!"
When we marry, we make a decision to share all aspects of ourselves with another. Today, and have chosen to take this step.
Consecration
Minister: Under the eyes of God, Under the eyes of Allah, Under the eyes of the Universe, Under the fold of the Elements, we pause for a moment to acknowledge the gravity of the commitment and are about to enter into.
As the Bible reminds us in Ecclesiastes, with loving companionship we may overcome any obstacle:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down
together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
As is tradition, let us now read the Sheva Brachot, the Seven Benedictions:
Blessed are You, Adonai our God, King of the Universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has created everything for your glory.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Creator of Human Beings.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has fashioned human beings in your image,
according to your likeness and has fashioned from it a lasting mold. Blessed are You Adonai,
Creator of Human Beings.
Bring intense joy and exultation to the barren one (Jerusalem) through the ingathering of her children amidst
her in gladness. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who gladdens Zion through her children.
Gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatures in the garden of Eden. Blessed are You,
Adonai, Who gladdens groom and bride.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, groom and bride,
mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, brotherhood, peace, and companionship. Adonai, our God, let there
soon be heard in the cities of Judah and the streets of Jerusalem the sound of joy and the sound of gladness,
the voice of the groom and the voice of the bride, the sound of the grooms' jubilance from their canopies and
of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You Who causes the groom to rejoice with his bride.
At this time, I will recite a short poem written by Mufti Ismail Menk:
"Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start.
A school where you will never graduate.
A school without a break or a free period.
A school where no one is allowed to drop out.
A school which you will have to attend evey day of your life.
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
A school founded by the Almighty:
1.On the foundation of love,
2.The walls made of trust,
3.The door made of acceptance,
4.The windows made of understanding.
5.The furniture made of blessings.
6.The roof made of faith.
Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.
Even at times of a storm, don’t be unwise and run outside.
Remember this school is the safest place to be.
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. If you find something in your classmate
(spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate.
The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short excerpt from Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith:
"People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout
between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is is a postcard glimpse of a
skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they
didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short poem written by Thich Nhat Hanh that reflects the feelings
of this moment.
"Standing quietly by the fence,
you smile your wondrous smile,
I am speechless,
and my senses are filled
By the sounds of your beautiful song,
Beginningless and endless.
I bow deeply to you."
As we move forward with the ceremony, I offer this traditional Celtic wedding prayer:
"Now you are bound one to the other
With a tie not easy to break.
Take the time of binding
Before the final vows are made
To learn what you need to know -
To grow in wisdom and love.
That your marriage will be strong
That your love will last
In this life and beyond."
While a serious commitment, this ceremony obviously brings us great joy as well. The couple that stands before us clearly shares a special bond, and I'd like to offer them a chance to express their love for each other. To that end, I will now invite the Groom and Bride couple to share their sacred vows.
Vows
Minister: , would you like to go first?
(Groom states their vow...) , today we begin a shared life together, one that I cannot wait to start. No matter what the future may bring, I make these solemn promises: I vow to love you endlessly, to care for you selflessly, and to cherish you daily.
Minister: , please share your vows.
(Bride states their vow...) , today we begin a shared life together, one that I cannot wait to start. No matter what the future may bring, I make these solemn promises: I vow to love you endlessly, to care for you selflessly, and to cherish you daily.
Minister: We will now proceed.
Declaration of Intent
Minister: and , please join hands.
, in front of all those gathered today, do you take to be your Wife, to stay by her through sickness and health, through failure and success, through times of sorrow and times of joy, so long as you both shall live?
: I do.
Minister: , in front of all those gathered today, do you take to be your Husband, to stay by him through sickness and health, through failure and success, through times of sorrow and times of joy, so long as you both shall live?
: I do.
Candle Lighting
Minister: and , the words you have spoken have solidified your union, but it is with the lighting of this candle that your souls will truly become one.
Both and will then receive a pre-lit candle to begin the candle lighting process.
In your hands rests a single flame, a light symbolizing not just the warmth of your being, but all aspects of your life. All your ideas, all your thoughts; every word you've spoken, every decision you've made; all your victories, all your defeats; your moments of happiness, and of despair; all are contained within the flame you now hold.
Minister will pause for effect.
To mark your sacred union, you will now light the center candle together.
and will then use their candles to light a larger candle centered between them.
Witness how two separate flames have come together to form a single light. Just as the two flames have become one, so too have your souls been joined today in a sacred bond. As the light of this combined flame gives warmth and guidance to all around it, may your souls flourish together in unity from this day forward.
Hand Fasting
Minister: and , the words spoken today have formalized your union, but is through the fasting of hands that you truly seal your spiritual commitment to each other. I will now invite you to join hands.
and will hold hands, joining right-hand to right-hand and left-hand to left-hand in an interlocking fashion. Help the couple adjust their hand positioning here if they struggle in doing so.
With your hands locked in union, look into the eyes of the person who stands before you. Reflect on all that you have been through together; the joys, the sorrows, the victories, and the failures. The person whose hands you now grasp will be your supporter, your partner, and your companion from this day forward.
In the tradition of our ancestors, your hands will now be fastened together.
Officiant then wraps the hand-fasting cord around the couple's interlocked hands.
Just as your hands are now interlocked, so too are your souls sealed together in union. While the ribbon which now binds you must soon be removed, the symbolic binding of your spirits is permanent.
Officiant will pause for effect, and then unwrap the cord.
Sand Ceremony
Minister: and , the words you've spoken today have solidified your commitment to one another. To mark the beginning of your union, you will now combine sands to signify two separate spirits merging to become one.
and will each receive a vessel of sand of different colors.
In your hands you each hold an individual vessel of sand. Allow the grains of sand found within to represent your being. Let each grain symbolize a different moment in your life, collectively mirroring your unique life experience. Everything you have been through up to this point, and all the moments that are still ahead of you – your entire life is represented in this vessel.
When you are ready, please combine your sands together.
and will then tilt their vessels forward and pour their sand into a larger container situated between them.
Watch as these different grains of sand mix to form a new structure. Just as these separate sands have been combined into one, so too have your souls been bound together in unity. Before you now lies a new, larger vessel of sand – greater in volume than what you held before, symbolizing the strength of the bond you have entered into together.
Just as these grains of sand, now combined, can no longer be separated, so too have your individual lives become enjoined, your spirits indivisible. As you enter into this next chapter of life, side by side, remember that your partner shall forever be a part of you, and you of them.
Jumping The Broom
Minister: and , the words spoken today have made your union official, but by jumping over this broom you will truly begin your journey together as companions.
While this line is spoken, the minister will display the ceremonial broom to the audience before laying it down in front of the Groom and Bride.
Reflect for a moment on your past experiences, everything that led up to the day of your wedding. Remember all the good times you've been through, and the bad; consider all the decisions that took your life on its distinct path. Recognize that each fork in the road led you to where you are today. More forks will surely come in the future, but one thing has changed: you now have a partner by your side. Please join your hands and when you're ready, jump together over the broom to begin your new life.
and will then join hands and jump over the broom.
Glass Stomping
Minister: and , having now spoken the words formalizing your marriage, we will now commence with the traditional glass stomping to mark the formation of this beautiful union. As is customary, the message of "Mazel Tov" will be shouted as the glass is broken.
As the officiant is speaking, the best man will place the glass (usually wrapped in a white cloth) in front of the couple. The couple will then stomp the glass.
This glass before you, now broken, may never be reassembled – its condition is permanent. Just as this glass has been forever altered, so too are your lives upon taking the sacred vows of marriage. Your spirits are bound together in harmony, from this day forward. Embrace this change, for with it comes both comfort and joy.
Tree Planting
Minister: and , the solemn words spoken today have made your union official. Now, through the planting of your marital tree, you will truly solidify this special bond.
Both and will each receive a small jar containing soil. A sapling (placed in a pot beforehand) will then be brought forward.
In your hands you each hold a vessel of soil. Let this sample of earth represent your soul, your body, your being. Everything you are, and everything you will become is contained inside. With this in mind, prepare now to share this soil with your partner – a symbolic melding of your individual spirits at the base of your marital tree.
When you are both ready, slowly pour your vessels of soil into the pot before you, giving this tree a strong foundation to call home.
and will then pour their soil at the base of the tree.
As this tree grows, so will your bond. With love and care, its trunk will become tall and its branches strong – capable of withstanding any hardship. Just as a tree weathers a storm, so shall your marriage endure any challenge.
Ring Exchange
Minister: Now it is time to exchange rings. Wedding rings serve as a physical representation of your bond – a constant reminder of the commitment you've undertaken. But they serve a symbolic purpose as well. As you prepare to place a ring on your partner's finger, take a moment to appreciate its circular shape. Just as a circle has no end, so too will your union be everlasting.
Please repeat after me:
I, , give you, this ring as a sign of my endless love for you. May it ever serve to remind us of the bond we share.
I, , give you, this ring as a sign of my endless love for you. May it ever serve to remind us of the bond we share.
Pronouncement
Minister: By the power vested in me by the Universal Life Church and by the state of , I am happy to pronounce and as Husband and Wife under the eyes of God. under the eyes of Allah. under the eyes of the Universe. under the fold of the Elements.
Kiss
Minister: , You may kiss the Bride! You may kiss your spouse!
Presentation
Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, I now present to you Mr. and Mrs. !
Recessional
~ Exit Music ~
Processional
~ Introductory Music ~
Welcome Statement
Minister: and , Ladies and gentlemen, and , it is no small honor to celebrate this special milestone with you today. Marriage, to those who haven't experienced it, is often seen as the end goal of a relationship – the final step a couple takes together. But that couldn't be further from the truth. As you well understand, getting married is really only the beginning. After the wedding is when the true journey begins.
By a similar token, a successful marriage is not achieved by accident – it's something that requires hard work, and dedication. The fact that you stand before us today, after all these years, is truly an impressive accomplishment – and a testament to the strength of the bond you share. As we gather to commemorate this wonderful occasion, you have the unique opportunity to renew the vows you made under the eyes of God under the eyes of Allah under the eyes of the Universe under the fold of the Elements all those years ago.
There truly is nothing so powerful as love. As the Bible reminds us in the Song of Solomon,
"Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house
for love, it would be utterly scorned."
Before we proceed, let us join together in a reading from the Book of Ruth:
"As Ruth said: Entreat me not to leave thee, Or to return from following after thee: For whither thou goest,
I will go, And where thou lodgest, I will lodge. Thy people shall be my people, And thy God my God. Where thou
diest, will I die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If ought but death part
thee and me."
I would now like to share the following Duas:
Oh Allah, bless this couple with faith, love and happiness in this world and the next.
O Allah, You are the Loving (Al Wadud) and the Merciful (Al Rehman). Please let love and mercy fill the hearts
of this couple when they look upon each other.
Our Creator, strengthen the spirit of the bride and groom with faith, and let them increase in their
love and commitment to You through their bond.
Oh Lord of the Universe, all power is with You. Let this couple's marriage become a beautiful example to other
couples.
Life offers few greater joys than a deep connection felt with another. But a soulmate is more than just a
special connection, author Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us:
"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a
mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own
attention so you can change your life."
Consider the wisdom of Buddha's words during his sermon at Rajagaha:
"Do not deceive, do not despise each other anywhere. Do not be angry nor bear secret resentments; for as a
mother will risk her life and watches over her child, so boundless be your love to all, so tender, kind and
mild. Cherish good will right and left, early and late, and without hindrance, without stint, be free of hate
and envy, while standing and walking and sitting down, what ever you have in mind, the rule of life that is
always best is to be loving-kind."
Before continuing, I will share an old Pagan blessing:
"Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember...
Like a star should your love be constant,
Like the earth should your love be firm.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways or words of the
Unenlightened give you unease.
For the Old Gods are with you,
Now and always!"
Now, let us take a moment to express our gratitude to the family and friends who have come to bear witness to the renewal of this sacred union. For those of you fortunate enough to watch this relationship grow from its infancy into what it is today, this experience will be all the more meaningful.
and , you've come a long way from your wedding day, and no doubt made countless memories together. Without further ado, before all those gathered today, it's time to make one more.
Wedding Sermon
Minister: Marriage is, in many ways, an art form. It comes naturally to some, and not so naturally to others. Yet when given proper care and attention, it flourishes, becoming a positive symbol for others to strive toward. Perfecting this art may not always be easy – for married life comes with its own unique set of challenges – but it also brings immeasurable benefits. As you once again stand together at the altar, take pride in the fact that you've built a relationship strong enough to withstand the test of time.
But that work is not yet done. While the road behind you has been clearly marked, recognize that the road ahead is not yet paved. You must continue to support one another each and every day. No one can know what the future holds, but one thing does remain constant: your inseparable bond. Drawing upon all the lessons you have learned over the course of your relationship, you are well equipped to tackle anything that comes your way.
It's now time to solidify your commitment to each other through the renewal of your sacred vows.
Consecration
Minister: As and prepare to renew their sacred vows under the eyes of God, under the eyes of Allah, under the eyes of the Universe, under the fold of the Elements, we recognize that the promises made here today carry no less importance than when they were first spoken all those years ago.
As the Bible reminds us in Ecclesiastes, with loving companionship we may overcome any obstacle:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down
together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
As is tradition, let us now read the Sheva Brachot, the Seven Benedictions:
Blessed are You, Adonai our God, King of the Universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has created everything for your glory.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Creator of Human Beings.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who has fashioned human beings in your image,
according to your likeness and has fashioned from it a lasting mold. Blessed are You Adonai,
Creator of Human Beings.
Bring intense joy and exultation to the barren one (Jerusalem) through the ingathering of her children amidst
her in gladness. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who gladdens Zion through her children.
Gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatures in the garden of Eden. Blessed are You,
Adonai, Who gladdens groom and bride.
Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, King of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, groom and bride,
mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, brotherhood, peace, and companionship. Adonai, our God, let there
soon be heard in the cities of Judah and the streets of Jerusalem the sound of joy and the sound of gladness,
the voice of the groom and the voice of the bride, the sound of the grooms' jubilance from their canopies and
of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You Who causes the groom to rejoice with his bride.
At this time, I will recite a short poem written by Mufti Ismail Menk:
"Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start.
A school where you will never graduate.
A school without a break or a free period.
A school where no one is allowed to drop out.
A school which you will have to attend evey day of your life.
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
A school founded by the Almighty:
1.On the foundation of love,
2.The walls made of trust,
3.The door made of acceptance,
4.The windows made of understanding.
5.The furniture made of blessings.
6.The roof made of faith.
Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.
Even at times of a storm, don’t be unwise and run outside.
Remember this school is the safest place to be.
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. If you find something in your classmate
(spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate.
The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short excerpt from Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith:
"People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout
between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is is a postcard glimpse of a
skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they
didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves."
Before continuing, I'd like to share a short poem written by Thich Nhat Hanh that reflects the feelings
of this moment.
"Standing quietly by the fence,
you smile your wondrous smile,
I am speechless,
and my senses are filled
By the sounds of your beautiful song,
Beginningless and endless.
I bow deeply to you."
As we move forward with the ceremony, I offer this traditional Celtic wedding prayer:
"Now you are bound one to the other
With a tie not easy to break.
Take the time of binding
Before the final vows are made
To learn what you need to know -
To grow in wisdom and love.
That your marriage will be strong
That your love will last
In this life and beyond."
With this in mind, let us proceed.
Vows
Minister: and , you may now share your renewed vows of commitment.
, would you like to begin?
(Groom states their vow...) I wake up every day thinking how fortunate I am to have you in my life. As in any relationship, we've had our good days and we've had our bad. But through it all, my love for you has only grown. It's incredible that we've come this far, and I cannot wait to write even more chapters of this story with you by my side. With joy in my heart and a sincere appreciation for the love we share, I renew my solemn vows to you today.
Minister: , you turn.
(Bride states their vow...) I wake up every day thinking how fortunate I am to have you in my life. As in any relationship, we've had our good days and we've had our bad. But through it all, my love for you has only grown. It's incredible that we've come this far, and I cannot wait to write even more chapters of this story with you by my side. With joy in my heart and a sincere appreciation for the love we share, I renew my solemn vows to you today.
Minister: and , thank you. May you ever hold these vows sacred.
Declaration of Intent
Minister: Now, please join hands and face one another.
, do you promise to cherish as your Wife, remain ever ready to provide support, and be true to your vows for the rest of your days?
: I do.
Minister: , do you promise to cherish as your Husband, remain ever ready to provide support, and be true to your vows for the rest of your days?
: I do.
Minister: please repeat after me. I, , once again commit myself to you, , before all those gathered today. My devotion to you knows no bounds, and I pledge to treasure every moment we spend together for the rest of our lives. With all my heart, I make this solemn vow.
please repeat after me. I, , once again commit myself to you, , before all those gathered today. My devotion to you knows no bounds, and I pledge to treasure every moment we spend together for the rest of our lives. With all my heart, I make this solemn vow.
Candle Lighting
Minister: and , the words you have spoken have solidified your union, but it is with the lighting of this candle that your souls will truly become one.
Both and will then receive a pre-lit candle to begin the candle lighting process.
In your hands rests a single flame, a light symbolizing not just the warmth of your being, but all aspects of your life. All your ideas, all your thoughts; every word you've spoken, every decision you've made; all your victories, all your defeats; your moments of happiness, and of despair; all are contained within the flame you now hold.
Minister will pause for effect.
To mark your sacred union, you will now light the center candle together.
and will then use their candles to light a larger candle centered between them.
Witness how two separate flames have come together to form a single light. Just as the two flames have become one, so too have your souls been joined today in a sacred bond. As the light of this combined flame gives warmth and guidance to all around it, may your souls flourish together in unity from this day forward.
Hand Fasting
Minister: and , the words spoken today have formalized your union, but is through the fasting of hands that you truly seal your spiritual commitment to each other. I will now invite you to join hands.
and will hold hands, joining right-hand to right-hand and left-hand to left-hand in an interlocking fashion. Help the couple adjust their hand positioning here if they struggle in doing so.
With your hands locked in union, look into the eyes of the person who stands before you. Reflect on all that you have been through together; the joys, the sorrows, the victories, and the failures. The person whose hands you now grasp will be your supporter, your partner, and your companion from this day forward.
In the tradition of our ancestors, your hands will now be fastened together.
Officiant then wraps the hand-fasting cord around the couple's interlocked hands.
Just as your hands are now interlocked, so too are your souls sealed together in union. While the ribbon which now binds you must soon be removed, the symbolic binding of your spirits is permanent.
Officiant will pause for effect, and then unwrap the cord.
Sand Ceremony
Minister: and , the words you've spoken today have solidified your commitment to one another. To mark the beginning of your union, you will now combine sands to signify two separate spirits merging to become one.
and will each receive a vessel of sand of different colors.
In your hands you each hold an individual vessel of sand. Allow the grains of sand found within to represent your being. Let each grain symbolize a different moment in your life, collectively mirroring your unique life experience. Everything you have been through up to this point, and all the moments that are still ahead of you – your entire life is represented in this vessel.
When you are ready, please combine your sands together.
and will then tilt their vessels forward and pour their sand into a larger container situated between them.
Watch as these different grains of sand mix to form a new structure. Just as these separate sands have been combined into one, so too have your souls been bound together in unity. Before you now lies a new, larger vessel of sand – greater in volume than what you held before, symbolizing the strength of the bond you have entered into together.
Just as these grains of sand, now combined, can no longer be separated, so too have your individual lives become enjoined, your spirits indivisible. As you enter into this next chapter of life, side by side, remember that your partner shall forever be a part of you, and you of them.
Jumping The Broom
Minister: and , the words spoken today have made your union official, but by jumping over this broom you will truly begin your journey together as companions.
While this line is spoken, the minister will display the ceremonial broom to the audience before laying it down in front of the Groom and Bride.
Reflect for a moment on your past experiences, everything that led up to the day of your wedding. Remember all the good times you've been through, and the bad; consider all the decisions that took your life on its distinct path. Recognize that each fork in the road led you to where you are today. More forks will surely come in the future, but one thing has changed: you now have a partner by your side. Please join your hands and when you're ready, jump together over the broom to begin your new life.
and will then join hands and jump over the broom.
Glass Stomping
Minister: and , having now spoken the words formalizing your marriage, we will now commence with the traditional glass stomping to mark the formation of this beautiful union. As is customary, the message of "Mazel Tov" will be shouted as the glass is broken.
As the officiant is speaking, the best man will place the glass (usually wrapped in a white cloth) in front of the couple. The couple will then stomp the glass.
This glass before you, now broken, may never be reassembled – its condition is permanent. Just as this glass has been forever altered, so too are your lives upon taking the sacred vows of marriage. Your spirits are bound together in harmony, from this day forward. Embrace this change, for with it comes both comfort and joy.
Tree Planting
Minister: and , the solemn words spoken today have made your union official. Now, through the planting of your marital tree, you will truly solidify this special bond.
Both and will each receive a small jar containing soil. A sapling (placed in a pot beforehand) will then be brought forward.
In your hands you each hold a vessel of soil. Let this sample of earth represent your soul, your body, your being. Everything you are, and everything you will become is contained inside. With this in mind, prepare now to share this soil with your partner – a symbolic melding of your individual spirits at the base of your marital tree.
When you are both ready, slowly pour your vessels of soil into the pot before you, giving this tree a strong foundation to call home.
and will then pour their soil at the base of the tree.
As this tree grows, so will your bond. With love and care, its trunk will become tall and its branches strong – capable of withstanding any hardship. Just as a tree weathers a storm, so shall your marriage endure any challenge.
Ring Exchange
Minister: During your wedding ceremony, you exchanged rings with one another. These rings are a physical representation of the strength of your bond, symbolizing the promises you made – and continue to keep. In keeping with tradition, you will now exchange rings once again.
Please repeat after me:
I, , wear this ring as a constant reminder of the love we share. I promise to keep it ever on my finger, and you by my side.
I, , wear this ring as a constant reminder of the love we share. I promise to keep it ever on my finger, and you by my side.
Pronouncement
Minister: Congratulations! Your vows are now renewed. We are deeply grateful for the positive example you provide to others. May your bond only continue to grow stronger with time.
Kiss
Minister: and , you may now share a kiss to officially seal this renewal!
Presentation
Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you Mr. and Mrs. , recommitted to each other before God. before Allah. before the Universe. before the Elements. May their lives be filled with as much joy as they've brought all of us today.
Recessional
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